Be more secure in yourself. Jealousy most of the time leads to insecurity in yourself. Look, if this person is dating you, then they obviously like you. No one dates someone just for the heck of it. If you can develop more confidence in yourself, than you can help overcome the feeling of jealousy. Being more confident also goes with having a better attitude around your mate. If you’re positive and confident to be around, they’re going to be into you.. If you’re always getting mad, angry, and questioning their motives, or who they are with. You’re just going to make them angry and push them away. Maybe into another persons arms for real this time.
Stop being controlling. If you’re starting to feel the need to control your partner, you got to stop this. You’re going down a dangerous path of jealousy. You can’t have every waking moment with them, and you have to allow them to have their independence, or time alone. This is not healthy. This does not mean they are going to go behind your back, and cheat on you. Most people who’ve been cheated on, have this problem a lot. They want to control more of what they’re partner is doing, to try to erase what has happen in the past. Or their fears of not trusting. This is not healthy for you, or your partner. This is serious jealousy. Controlling a person, is jealousy if my book. You’re controlling them from the fears you have. You can’t control everything, but you can present yourself better to avoid bad things actually happening. The controlling is just revealing your most inner fears. That’s lack-of-trust in your partner, and who they may be with. Not a good way to go about this, so I’d stop it before your partner hurts you in return. Because I can tell you, they don’t feel very good about themselves, or very happy about the relationship anymore.
Give real trust to your partner. If you really can’t trust them, break up then. Otherwise, develop real, honest trust. If he or she says the opposite sex is just a friend, then believe that. One thing you have to accept. He or she will never go the rest of their lives NOT being attracted to someone. The same thing goes with yourself. If you can’t handle that, then you’re never going to be mature enough to be in relationship. You need more self-control and understanding. That does not mean, they’ll actually go down the path of betraying you. If you are giving your partner honest love, trust, and respect. Then you are in great hands, with them knowing they have something special with you, that they’d not like to screw that up. There’s a difference between being completely into someone, and just having a little attraction. People are pretty sensitive, and it’s easy for someone to assume, or think they really don’t care enough. Show real trust to your partner. Show real love. You can’t fake those things either. Human emotions aren’t easy to fake. If you give those to your partner, your jealousy and insecurity will fade. You should never get serious, unless you’re serious about giving those emotions to your partner, and vise versa. There’s a reason why these two needs are crucial.
Time away doesn’t always mean they don’t miss you. A relationship is tricky, and sometimes being around someone makes you more edgy, and paranoid at the same time. We also like having the attention in a relationship. You easily feel insulted if they go a day without calling, or something. It’s okay to take time to process your thoughts. Sometimes they just need the same thing. It doesn’t mean they don’t miss, or need you. Sometimes they may be really busy too. Don’t let assumptions run wild. Keep your mind off those things. At the same time, if you notice this is a continued theme, then talk to them about it with reason. Explaining things calmly can go a long way of helping, rather than lashing out with emotion.
