First: Realize It’s Easy To Get Married But It’s Hard Work Staying Married
That can be said about any relationship. If you can realize that, you’ve already won half the battle. It’s easy to make a friend but it’s hard work keeping that friend.
Second: Be Positive
When we say that marriage takes work, many women instantly think to themselves, “Why should I make the effort…he’s the one that needs to change…”…but this is not the right attitude to have. If you know that your relationship with your husband needs work, don’t be afraid to take the initiative to make your relationship better. Women are usually better at relationships than men. We are more sensitive to other people’s needs and we are generally more caring. We are just made that way. A lot of men, while they may be great guys, need a little help in that area and while your frustration is definitely a valid one, just remember that your husband needs your encouragement.
Third: Know The True Definition of Love
When God defined what love is in the Bible, He knew what He was doing!
Love is Patient, Love is Kind, It Does Not Envy, It Does Not Boast, It Is Not Proud, It Is Not Rude, It Is Not Self-Seeking (Selfish), It Is Not Easily Angered, It Keeps No Record of Wrongs, Love Does Not Delight In Evil But Rejoices In The Truth, It Always Protects, Always Trusts, Always Hopes, Always Perseveres.
Ask yourself if you are demonstrating love to your husband.
Fourth: Set the Example
If your husband comes home late from work, don’t meet him at the door with a scowl. That negativity rubs off on him and his defensive attitude makes for a wasted evening together. Instead, greet him with a smile and a tasty dinner and ask him how his day was. As hard as it may be sometimes, your sensitivity will surprise him and he is more likely to reciprocate your caring attitude. Most people respond better to a kind gesture than a harsh word. As a wife and a woman, we are to set the example for our husband.
Fifth: Get Closer
Women who want a caring husband usually want more than that. They want a deep intimate relationship with him.
Get closer to your husband by communicating. Talk to him about your needs but keep in mind that he’s not perfect. He won’t ever be able to satisfy all of your needs but if he is constantly trying, then you know he has been listening to you.
Most importantly, get closer to your husband by attending a marriage class. Many churches have them. They are not counseling sessions but they are classes that enhance your marriage and give you tips on how to be a better wife and mother and a better husband and father. Classes like these are priceless because you are taking one night a week for 4-6 weeks to invest in your marriage together. Marriage takes work but when you invest in your marriage, the results definitely make it worth the effort.
