The most basic, and overlooked, step to turning him on is simply this: communication. Guys want to be listened to and appreciated just as much as women, so the first step is to let him know you care by REALLY listening to him. Remembering little things like his favorite candy, what house chores he really hates, or his favorite smell can make all the difference if you surprise him by using that knowledge to do a little something nice now and then.
Next, try actually asking him about what his desires are. It might seem awkward at first, but at least you’ll know some sure fire ways to fire him up and he’ll probably be turned on by your openess and desire to please him. Maybe he has some interesting fantasies? Or maybe he likes a specific move you do in bed? What’s his favorite smell? It’s likely that he’ll be relieved to tell you honestly about what he likes and doesn’t like so that you’re sure to amp up the action in the bedroom.
Then there’s some really simple, everyday things you can do too. Take care of him. Guys like women because we make delicious food, we make things clean, we bandage boo boos, and offer encouragement and an ear to complain too. If he comes home totally exhausted from work, do some of his chores, get him something good to drink and turn on the game, or give him a little massage. Treating him like a god now and then makes him feel really special.(Obviously you don’t need to do this ALL the time, but now and then it reminds him of that other, tamer side of you that’s just as special)
Have your own life. If he sees that your life isn’t completely about him it makes you seem even more intelligent, useful, and mysterious than you already are. Take time to do stuff with your girlfriends, or just for yourself. It’ll make you feel good about yourself, which he likes too.
Now then, there are some things about us fem folk that are universally attractive to all men that you should know about.
Men are fascinated by our bodies. They are much more easily aroused by visuals than we are, so remember to look your best. Wear things that really flatter you, but aren’t too ****ty (unless you’re in bed). You want to look amazing, but leave something to the imagination so that he is simultaneously turned on AND still respects you.
More specifically though, you can turn things up now and then by wearing something really unexpected, to remind him how how you are. Maybe it’s a normal, boring sunday afternoon, and you come downstairs wearing a gorgeous sundress, or you can wear a tight red dress to a somewhat less formal dinner, either way he’ll be very curious and appreciate the view.
Reverting back to basic flirting techniques is another simple way to turn him on. Shoot him furtive glances across a crowded room or from across the table. Brush him ever so lightly with your fingers when you talk. Whisper in his ears. Play footsie under the table. Or play hard to get. All of these will keep your relationship feeling fresh because it will remind him of when you first met, as well as bring back the sexual tension you two first felt.
Something that really drives them wild though, is teasing. You can wind him up hours or even days before the final event by texting him dirty things, or sending him photos via email. You could be as subtle as whispering him “I want you” during a family dinner or by touching him a bit too friskily in public, but without drawing other’s attention. He will be thinking about you all day gauranteed so when he finally gets you all to himself the passion will be amazing.
You can exchange teasing banter, or even play sex games. There are loads of fun things to try on the internet like: strip poker, sexy dice, strip dances, etc. If your guy is into those sort of things, why not give it a try? And if he’s not you can be a lot more subtle by simply teasing him. When you’re in the middle of some hot kissing, pull away and walk off with a sultry smile. He’ll definitely attack you at that point.
Another way to remind him of how lucky he is to be with you is to remind him that other guys are still interested in you. But be CAREFUL; This is a delicate line that you definitely don’t want to cross. You can mention your guy friends now and then or how some guy stared at you in the grocery store.
Another way to remind him of how lucky he is to be with you is to remind him that other guys are still interested in you. But be CAREFUL; This is a delicate line that you definitely don’t want to cross. You can mention your guy friends now and then or how some guy stared at you in the grocery store. Just make sure that he knows you’re not interested back. His natural instinct to compete will make him jump at the chance to impress you.
Here are some concrete ideas:
-Play footsie under the table
-Make dinner in JUST an apron
-Come up behind him and initiate a sexual encounter when he’s least expecting it
-Try doing things in an unexpected place: a park, a janitor’s closet, in the woods, in a relative’s bathroom, or in an airplane bathroom
-Play strip poker
-Give him a strip tease
