People will say there is no such thing as a perfect relationship
, but I disagree. There is a perfect partner for you if you want there to be. That person may not work as well for other people, but frankly, that is why they are not with them and you are. When there are arguments in the relationship that is ok, your partner is still perfect for you if they handle the good and the bad times in a way that fits you.
Before you go looking for a partner you need to not only know yourself, but you need to be happy with yourself. If you’re not happy with life in general then you need to go out and do the things in life that make you happy. If you meet someone and you don’t really know what in life makes you happy, then you will likely grow apart later once you figure it out.
Once you know what you want it’s ok to get involved seriously. It is imperative that the two of you have the same goals in life. You have to remember that not everyone wants marriage, not everyone wants monogamy, not everyone wants kids
or a house in the country and that is just fine. You just have to make sure that the someone you’re with wants what you want. Don’t EVER expect your partner to change, if you need them to change, they’re not really who you need.
You need to be with someone who compliments your personality. They need to be the ying to your yang. You’re looking for someone who’s going to challenge you to do things that will make you a better person. Someone who pushes you to be your best catches you when you fall and pushes you back up again. There should be an irreplaceable amount of trust and respect and a level of emptiness when your partner is gone. If you’re happy and laughing when you’re around your partner, that means that the two of you bring out the best in each other.
When there is a mutual love an understanding between the two of you, you feel it. When one of you plans an event they love and the other is truly excited to go, you know its right. When neither of you worry about the other cheating, nor worry that the other doesn’t love you and can’t imagine yourself with anyone else it will just feel right. If you aren’t finding it then you know you haven’t found what you need yet. And if you haven’t found what you need yet, keep doing the things you love in life and be happy. If a partner comes your way then great, if not relax and enjoy life.
