When I heard that Match.com is using facial recognition technology to help people find matches who look like their exes, my first thought was: this “type” insanity has officially gone too far. It’s okay to branch out! There is no need to shell out $5,000 for a replica of someone who, for whatever reason, isn’t right for you. Instead, follow the advice of dating coach and relationship expert Tracey Steinberg, author of Flirt for Fun and Meet the One, and open up your mind.
First, figure out if your specific type is a problem: “Think about if there have been any consistent patterns in your love life that aren’t working,” Steinberg says. She offered the example of a client of hers who felt like she was never number one in a guy’s life. After Steinberg walked her through her dating history, the client realized she was attracted to workaholic types. “I pointed out that if she was always trying to make it work with very educated, extremely ambitious people, she was always going to feel like she wasn’t their top priority.” So, think about it: do you routinely find yourself playing out the same drama in one relationship after another? It may be because you’re too stuck on your type.