Make a list of the things that bother you in the relationship/marriage. Have your partner make a list too. Try to be as honest as possible when writing what you don’t like down. Don’t attack each other. When finish go over the list with your partner – TALK – not fight. Remember you’re on the same team. If you were a football team make the play to score a touchdown. Do the same with your relationship. You will win the victory in you relationship.