Remember that love is a verb. Choose to love your spouse for better or for worse.
Communicate even if it results in an argument. Choose a private place and a time when you won’t be interrupted.
Outlaw any name calling, references to past history, and cheap shots during the argument. Stick to the issue at hand.
Listen to your spouse attentively without interruption. Pay attention to the emotions that lie behind the words and body language
. Do not try to change those feelings or offer solutions; just validate them by listening.
Don’t go to bed angry at each other. Call a truce before bedtime. Most things look better in the morning.
Take action. Do something every day that shows your love for your spouse even if you don’t feel love. Love has a funny way of creeping back into the picture.
Remember that the bond of love grows even stronger after you’ve survived difficult times.
