Speak up and tell your partner what you need. In order to keep a relationship new and exciting, you need to tell your partner what it is that you’re missing in the relationship. Some partners don’t realize that they are being less affectionate, more irritable, or paying less attention. Relationships become comfortable over time and it’s easy to lose sight of the important things you once did. Your partner may not realize that he (or she) has changed. So speak up and tell your partner that you want to work on bringing back the excitement and newness to your relationship. Tell him ways you think this could happen by explaining what you need. Then be prepared to listen to his needs as well. Communication is key in any relationship and will open the doors to a more exciting and happy relationship.