Do some research. Spend some time with your female friends, sisters, aunts, grandmothers or female cousins and pick their brains. Don’t be afraid to ask some pressing questions. You’ll be surprised at how much you can learn about female behavior, habits, interests and desires just by spending time with your female friends and relatives.
Get out of your comfort zone. If you want to understand women in relationships, get ready to wear your heart on your sleeve. Most women expect their men to be in touch with their own emotions as well. Learn to open up and not keep all your feelings bottled up inside.
Listen to what she has to say. This requires staying silent on your part. You have probably conditioned yourself to look as though you’re listening when, in fact, your mind is somewhere else completely. It’s time to stop such disrespectful behavior and get used to giving the woman in your life your undivided attention. All you have to do is listen. Most of the time you don’t even have to give any advice because all she wants is to know that you care. Just listening intently is enough, and doing so will be warmly appreciated.
Talk to her. Next time the two of you have a disagreement or argument, do not give her the silent treatment. No matter how difficult it may be for you, you must let go of your pride and approach her for a genuine conversation. Ignoring her will only make you appear immature. If she asks you if something’s wrong, don’t give a shrug and say “nothing.” The most important factor in any relationship is communication.
Walk a mile in her shoes. You will gain a much broader understanding of women in relationships if you simply take the time and effort to acknowledge the struggles and disappointments that women face. Try to look at the world from a female viewpoint, but be aware that the view may be quite overwhelming. As you become familiar with some of the hardships that women face (such as being a single mom, earning less than a man, being stereotyped and under-appreciated), you will gain a much deeper understanding of a woman’s mind and heart. When that occurs, you will never be confused again.