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Things A Woman Should Never Do On A Date

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:00:33 +0000

Things a Woman Should Never Do on a Date

Dating can be fun and exciting, and can lead to more dates with a wonderful man. But there are some things a woman just should not do if she hopes to have another date with that wonderful man. Following are just a few

tips on things that a woman should never do when on a date.

A woman should never nag a man. Nagging a man has got to be the biggest turn off. What man will want to go out again with a woman who nags him while dating him? If she nags while on a date, what will she do if things became more serious? Let the man be himself. You either like him just as he is or move on. Never be a nag!

Don’t spend the entire date talking about your ex boyfriend. If all you do is talk about him, that only tells the man that he is on your mind just a wee bit much. Not only does it make you insensitive to your date, chances are he isn’t going to want to date you again to listen to more drama. Leave the talking about the ex boyfriend to share with your girlfriends.

Most women love to talk. It seems to be part of being a female. But it’s not a good thing to hog the conversation when dating. Most likely your date will be bored quickly when he is unable to get a word in because you won’t stop talking long enough to let him get a word in edgewise. Instead of constantly talking, close the mouth, open the ears, and listen to him. Not only will you learn more about your date, he will probably feel a lot more appreciated because you actually take the time to listen to him instead of constantly talking.

Don’t try to be someone or something that you are not. Don’t lie to your date and don’t be dishonest with him. If the date turns into something more serious at a later time, you’ve got some explaining to do when it’s discovered that you were not honest to begin with. Rather than take the chance of losing what could be a good thing, just be yourself from the beginning and be honest.

Stay off the cell phone with your girlfriends while on a date. Don’t be so inconsiderate while on a date with a man and make him feel left out because you can’t stay off the phone while with him. Either leave the cell phone at home or turn it off. You are on a date with this wonderful man, not your cell phone.

10 Sexy Kissing Tips

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:16:09 +0000

If she is laying down draw one of her arms above her head and lightly hold her hand. Commence by kissing the soft area on the inside of her upper arm – from her elbow down to her chest. For variation, trail the tip of your tongue in a zigzag down this area. This absolutely drives my wife crazy! (submitted by Troy)
Kiss her gently near the clavicle (colar bone), then run your tongue in a zig zag up to her ear very slowly. Give her earlobe a little nibble. It’s all in the neck guys… (submitted by Dave)
When you’re sitting close to your love, start out by softly stroking their face, slowly move your hand to their mouth then very lightly brush the lower lip with one of your fingers. If they seem to love this, then place the tip of that finger in their mouth. My boyfriend loves this, and sometimes he’ll start sucking my finger a bit. This leads to a great french kiss! (submitted by KC)
Gently kiss your partner on the neck, cheek, jaw, and slowly move closer to his/her lips. When you reach their lips, they will be all the more excited to kiss you! My boyfriend sometimes does this and it drives me crazy! (submitted by Christi)
Start by pouring a glass of wine. Take a few sips to get the taste in your mouth. When you lead him to bed, bring the wine with you. While kissing him, dip your finger in the wine. Trace his lips and mouth with your wine-soaked finger and lick the wine off slowly and gently. Take your time. Kissing can be very erotic. (submitted by Heather)
I play a kissing game with my wife. The object of the game is to make your partner try to kiss you. This could be done by lightly kissing her neck, breathing into her ear, kissing her cheeks, and lightly kissing her lips. Whoever lasts the longest wins! (submitted by Guntes)
Sensually whisper something a litte bit naughty in their ear such as “I want you…” or make up your own. Let them feel your breath next to their ear, then kiss it and gently nibble it. Move down towards their neck and back up to their lips. This drives my husband crazy! (submitted by Gloria)
When kissing…try to catch his/her upper lip between your lips as you’re closing your mouth, and suck lightly before letting go. (submitted by Ryan)
When kissing really passionately, stroke the nape of his neck with your fingers. (submitted by Beth)
Think of why you like certain body parts of your love, or why you love to kiss those body parts. For each area, give them a quick kiss there, then whisper why you love that part. Move up and down their body sprinkling them with kisses and sweet words. (submitted by Nora)

How To Know He’s Ready To Commit

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 23:58:17 +0000

Step 1

His friends are married

If his friends are married, he’s more likely to marry too. If all of his friends are single and in party mode, well… birds of a feather, do what? Flock together.

Step 2

He’s financially secure

If he has his own housing or house, progressively, he thinks the next step is to fill it with a lil woman.

Step 3

He pursues you

The guy who is commitment-ready is going to initiate doing things with you. If you’re calling or emailing him and he takes days to get back to you or if you have to text him to find out where he is you’re not only chasing him, he’s probably not marriage-material.

Step 4

He’s willing to wait

If as a guy gets to know you, he’s willing and wants to wait before getting intimate, he is more likely to commit or has feelings of wanting a committed relationship.

Step 5

He watches DVDs with you when you’re sick

When a man takes out time to take care of you while you’re sick, he is not in ‘it’ just for the fun and sex. His wanting to be with you in bad times, is a good sign he’s in it for the long haul.

Step 6

He gets to know your friends and family

The long-term candidate wants to truly get to know you and you him. He will find ways for him to interact with your family and friends and vice versa. Bottom line is he will want to know how you fit in with his friends and family and he fits in with yours.

Step 7

The “we” instead of “me” syndrome

boy switches from “me” to “we” in conversation, even more with added actions. That’s a sign he’s committing to you at a deeper level. If your guy is all, “I”, “me”, and “my” instead of “we” and “us” in conversations and dealings after you’ve been dating a while, his mindset is still in single guy mode.

Step 8

He’s not afraid of compromise

A commitment-ready guy is going to ask your opinion, consult you about decisions he needs to make, and has the ability to meet you half-way. This is a great sign that he is emotionally available for a mature adult relationship and accepts you as a partner.

Step 9

He doesn’t need excuses

Commitment-phobics have excuses about why they can’t be with you on Saturday night, didn’t call and “aren’t ready for a relationship… right now.” If he’s commitment-ready, he doesn’t need excuses and needs you.

Step 10

He likes being in a long-term relationship

Some men like being in a monogamous relationship and some don’t. Accept it or don’t! If he complains all the time about needing space, treats you like a giant burden instead of a gift, and keeps talking about taking things slow, he’s telling you he’s not ready for a commitment.
Now he could be on his ‘not wanting to be monogamous way out’. For instance, if he’s done with the party scene, enjoys your “couple time” together, spending more and more time with you than dating others and has a strong sense of family; you’ve found a commitment-ready guy. Now if that’s the case, work that magic!

Enhance Your Love Life By Showing Random Acts Of Affection

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 02:12:06 +0000

Showing random acts of affection liberally will put a smile on your loved one’s face. They will feel good, and that will cause you to feel good. Showing random acts of affection is all part of being thoughtful.

Show affection towards your partner for no reason and at completely spontaneous times. Why should showing your love by cuddling and kissing be limited to certain situations?

When you are showing random acts of affection to your partner they feel inspired to do the same thing!

Over time, your relationship needs an injection of new blood and showing random acts of affection guarantees your love life is active and well. You feel less like roommates and more like lovers.

Hug your partner from behind next time they are brushing their teeth.
Play slow music and treat your lover to a romantic dance.
While your partner is busy around the home, walk by and stop to kiss him or her on the forehead.
Offer a long, warm kiss to your love as soon as you walk in the door and just as you leave each day.
Sneak up on your love and surprise them with a nuzzle in their hair or neck.
Run your fingers through your love’s hair as you wait in a line.
Rub up against your love’s leg while sitting beside him or her.
Place your hand on the small of her back as often as possible.
Caress your partner’s face or arms during a heart-to-heart.
Catch your love’s eye while they are reading the newspaper or otherwise engaged in concentration. When they look up and make eye contact back, smile and tell them how much you love them.
When your lover dresses to go out, be sure to pay attention and direct your gaze to admire him or her with your eyes. Tell them how fabulous they look and seal it with a kiss.

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 00:00:55 +0000

1. Keep expectations realistic. No one can be everything we might want him or her to be. Sometimes people disappoint us. It’s not all-or-nothing, though. Healthy relationships mean accepting people as they are and not trying to change them!

2. Talk with each other. It can’t be said enough: communication is essential in healthy relationships! It means—

Take the time. Really be there.

Genuinely listen. Don’t plan what to say next while you’re trying to listen. Don’t interrupt.

Listen with your ears and your heart. Sometimes people have emotional messages to share and weave it into their words.

Ask questions. Ask if you think you may have missed the point. Ask friendly (and appropriate!) questions. Ask for opinions. Show your interest. Open the communication door.

Share information. Studies show that sharing information especially helps relationships begin. Be generous in sharing yourself, but don’t overwhelm others with too much too soon.

3. Be flexible. Most of us try to keep people and situations just the way we like them to be. It’s natural to feel apprehensive, even sad or angry, when people or things change and we’re not ready for it. Healthy relationships mean change and growth are allowed!

4. Take care of you. You probably hope those around you like you so you may try to please them. Don’t forget to please yourself. Healthy relationships are mutual!

5. Be dependable. If you make plans with someone, follow through. If you have an assignment deadline, meet it. If you take on a responsibility, complete it. Healthy relationships are trustworthy!

6. Fight fair. Most relationships have some conflict. It only means you disagree about something, it doesn’t have to mean you don’t like each other! When you have a problem:

Negotiate a time to talk about it. Don’t have difficult conversations when you are very angry or tired. Ask, “When is a good time to talk about something that is bothering me?” Healthy relationships are based on respect and have room for both.

Don’t criticize. Attack the problem, not the other person. Open sensitive conversations with “I” statements; talk about how you struggle with the problem. Don’t open with “you” statements; avoid blaming the other person for your thoughts and feelings. Healthy relationships don’t blame.

Don’t assign feelings or motives. Let others speak for themselves. Healthy relationships recognize each person’s right to explain themselves.

Stay with the topic. Don’t use a current concern as a reason to jump into everything that bothers you. Healthy relationships don’t use ammunition from the past to fuel the present.

Say, “I’m sorry” when you’re wrong. It goes a long way in making things right again. Healthy relationships can admit mistakes.

Don’t assume things. When we feel close to someone it’s easy to think we know how he or she thinks and feels. We can be very wrong! Healthy relationships check things out.

Ask for help if you need it. Talk with someone who can help you find resolution—like your RA, a counselor, a teacher, a minister or even parents. Check campus resources like Counseling Services at 532-6927. Healthy relationships aren’t afraid to ask for help.

There may not be a resolved ending. Be prepared to compromise or to disagree about some things. Healthy relationships don’t demand conformity or perfect agreement.

Don’t hold grudges. You don’t have to accept anything and everything, but don’t hold grudges—they just drain your energy. Studies show that the more we see the best in others, the better healthy relationships get. Healthy relationships don’t hold on to past hurts and misunderstandings.

The goal is for everyone to be a winner. Relationships with winners and losers don’t last. Healthy relationships are between winners who seek answers to problems together.

You can leave a relationship. You can choose to move out of a relationship. Studies tell us that loyalty is very important in good relationships, but healthy relationships are NOW, not some hoped-for future development.

7. Show your warmth. Studies tell us warmth is highly valued by most people in their relationships. Healthy relationships show emotional warmth!

8. Keep your life balanced. Other people help make our lives satisfying but they can’t create that satisfaction for us. Only you can fill your life. Don’t overload on activities, but do use your time at college to try new things—clubs, volunteering, lectures, projects. You’ll have more opportunities to meet people and more to share with them. Healthy relationships aren’t dependent!

9. It’s a process. Sometimes it looks like everyone else on campus is confident and connected. Actually, most people feel just like you feel, wondering how to fit in and have good relationships. It takes time to meet people and get to know them…so, make “small talk”…respond to others…smile…keep trying. Healthy relationships can be learned and practiced and keep getting better!

10. Be yourself! It’s much easier and much more fun to be you than to pretend to be something or someone else. Sooner or later, it catches up anyway. Healthy relationships are made of real people, not images!

How To Drive A Man Wild.

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 02:05:09 +0000

Here are some concrete ideas:

-Play footsie under the table

-Make dinner in JUST an apron

-Come up behind him and initiate a sexual encounter when he’s least expecting it

-Try doing things in an unexpected place: a park, a janitor’s closet, in the woods, in a relative’s bathroom, or in an airplane bathroom

-Play strip poker

-Give him a strip tease

-Have phone/text sex

-Send him naughty pictures of yourself when one of you’s away on a business trip.

-Suprise him at work for a quickie

-Come home early and dim the lights. leave a trail of clothes/candles/flowers leading up to the bedroom and wait on the bed in your underwear.

-Buy some new, really sexy underwear. Or even a sexy costume

-Try role playing

-Dance dirty together in a night club
-Eat food off him

-Be his love slave for a night and let him do whatever he wants to you, even take orders

-Talk dirty to him

-When he’s watching tv, go down on him during a commercial break

Anyway, have fun and just keep practicing!

Tips On A New Relationship Following A Divorce

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 00:02:28 +0000

Step 1 Entering into a new relationship following a painful divorce can be difficult to say the least. If you start dating immediately following a divorce there are a few important things to keep in mind.

Step 2

First, it is probably best to seek companionship instead of jumping into a serious relationship. Many times after a divorce the person tends to be vulnerable and lonely. You should start the new relationship slow and try to develop a close friendship for starters.

Step 3

Spend time together doing simple things like seeing a movie, eating out, and just talking about basic everyday things. If you feel the need to vent or talk about your previous marriage then you should do so. For any new relationship to become successful, you need to put the past behind you, which includes any anger, bitterness or hurt feelings.

Step 4

Finally, if you do find that you are compatible with one another, you should not become intimate too soon. In a situation like this intimacy can actually end up destroying the new relationship for various reasons. Remember in any marriage you must be best friends with your spouse

Make Love Reduce Stress

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 02:06:18 +0000

Step 1

Sex reduces stress through deep breathing and physical activity. So, if you’re feeling really stressed, you’ll want to be active in your sex play with your partner. Yes, people really do run around their bedrooms naked.

Step 2

Sex reduces stress through massage and touch. Studies show that massage is a brilliant stress reducer because touch is beneficial to adults. So after that quick game of naked ‘catch me if you can’, give each other a massage for maximum stress relief.

Step 3

Sex reduces stress by releasing feel-good hormones. These are what makes your whole body feel good and they don’t just go away when you’re done. These stress relieving hormones stick around a bit.

Step 4

Sex reduces stress through intimacy. Emotional support with a partner is a wonderful way to boost self-confidence and relieve stress.

Step 5

Remember that a healthy relationship is needed for a healthy sex life. While going out and picking up a different partner might get you some sexual exercise, having a healthy relationship will give you all of the benefits of stress relieving sex.

How To Adjust To Single Life

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 00:01:24 +0000

Step 1

Give yourself time to mourn the loss of relationship and be realistic about expectations for yourself during this period. Don’t expect to adjust to single life immediately as it is a growing and learning process. If you suffer depression, be proactive about your health and peace of mind.

Step 2

Learn how to become self-sufficient to develop more stability and confidence. It may be that you find you are inexperienced with certain aspects of daily living, from money management to car repair. Know that you can learn how to take care of yourself well, if not better than before. Take advantage of helpful advice, self-help books, how-to videos online, and classes in the community.

Step 3

Adjust to single life by using this time to get to know yourself. This often seems like empty words of advice from others until you have spent at least a year as a single person, and often longer. However, it is about the most important thing to accomplish prior to seeking a new relationship. You may be surprised at how you feel in six months, twelve months and beyond. Often our attitudes and preferences are influenced by others—a time will come when you know what thoughts and practices are truly your own.

Step 4

Find an activity that you are passionate about, if one is missing from your life. If what you enjoyed most was shared with your loved one then it may take a little more effort to adjust. Try to venture out on your own or with friends and keep an open mind towards new endeavors — from volunteer work to vocational pursuits. It may be helpful to reflect on past dissatisfactions with prior in a relationship — be it lack of freedom, peace or choice to pursue your interests.

Step 5

Keep work and play in balance as you adjust to single life. Often, people will take on more work or play too hard to compensate for emptiness and loneliness. If you are happy and healthy this is likely not a problem, but be mindful of being too busy to enjoy other people and life in general.

Step 6

Network with others and find single friends. It is not necessary to end your current relationships, but sadly some couples treat their newly single friends differently, or eventually you may find that you have too little in common. If you’re shy or need encouragement seek out clubs and groups dedicated to singles. Toastmasters, church groups, hobbyist meets, and singles groups of all types include people with similar needs.

The Manhattans

"The Loverman" Jerry Wade — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 04:01:27 +0000

The Manhattans are coming to Indianapolis and WTLC is giving you a chance to see them for FREE. All you have to do is register below for you and friend to see the Manhattans LIVE!