1. Party at the right places

Most celebrities, especially those from sports and showbiz, are known to be avid party-goers. Since in this line of work, it is as important to be seen in the right places as it is to be good at what they do. Right places in this case means trendy and upscale nightspots, which have limited entry and VIP lounges apart from exotic cocktails and lavish interiors. If you can manage access to these venues, you stand a good chance of finding a celebrity having a drink at the same bar as you.

2. Live where they do

The really high-flying celebrities may be quite wary of chatting up strangers in public places like bars and spas. Those that have been in the spotlight for quite a while have had their fill of screaming hysteric fans and may no longer be eager to entertain admirers from the other side of the social divide. The only way through these barriers is to live where they live. Being part of their geographical and social landscape will turn you into a familiar figure and you may find the partner of your dreams no longer so distant when you meet him/her at a neighbor’s poolside party or the local organic foods store. However if you cannot afford a place at such expensive addresses, consider working as a real estate agent since celebrities are moving in or out of their million-dollar mansions and apartments almost all the time.

3. Do your homework

If you are looking to date a celebrity, it is not enough to be able to meet them. Remember that they are surrounded and being solicited by admirers – some of them richer than they are – all the time. You need something extra to catch and more importantly hold their attention. This is where the importance of doing your homework comes in. Learn as much as you can about the person you want to snag; some celebrities are attracted to power and influence, which all their glamour and beauty cannot buy. Others are drawn to plain, down-to-earth people who pose no threat to their own popularity. Learn about the secret drives about the celebrity you want to date and then give them exactly what they are looking for.

So, what’s the attraction for women when it comes to celebrities?

After taking a poll, here are the three top reasons women said they are attracted to celebrities:

1. Women want a man.

Many of the celebrities in town are athletes – who tend to have more manly features than the average guy. They’re taller, have wide shoulders and deep voices.

2. Women want security.

Financial security is a major turn.

3. Women enjoy social status.

Social status allows you to be invited to exclusive parties, enjoy VIP perks and an overall glamorous lifestyle.

” R&B legend and record exec Smokey Robinson seconded Jones’ statement that Cornelius left an indelible mark on the music industry. “I regret hearing about the loss of Don Cornelius, it’s a musical tragedy,” Robinson said. “He brought exposure to black talent and a positive image to young black teenagers that had never been done before with his creation of ‘Soul Train.’ He was a friend and we mourn his loss.” The Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin, has also shared her shock at Cornelius’ death, saying in a statement: “It’s just so sad, stunning and downright shocking and a huge and momentous loss to the African-American community and the world at large. Don Cornelius single handedly brought about a melding and unity of brother and sisterhood among young adults worldwide and globally with the unforgettable creation of Soul Train.”

• Food. Eat a decent amount of food at the restaurant. Even if you diet  all the time to keep your figure, you don’t need to make it look like you have issues with food on the first date.

• Smile. This is the easiest way to let him know you are interested in him. If he doesn’t get the clue that you’re interested, he probably will not bother calling you for another date.

• Courtesy. If he opens the car door for you, be sure to reach over and unlock his side. This shows him that you are considerate and think about other people.

• Be polite. Say please and thank you- to him and everyone else around you. Show him how pleasant you are to be around.

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  End the date with a kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips. You want to leave him wanting more- and not wondering how many other guys you’ve done that with on a first date….

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  Do not stay out too late. Resist the urge to go to his place after dinner. If you go to his place, he may again wonder how many other times you’ve done this on a first date….

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  Your ex. If your date asks you a question about your past relationship, just give a vague response. Going into great detail makes it look like you’re not over your ex.

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  Be positive. Even if you had the worst day ever at the office, make sure you cheer up before the date. Being too negative makes you look unattractive.

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  Be on time.

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  Phone calls. Definitely do not answer your phone on the date. Better yet, leave your phone at home.

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  Alcohol. Drink in moderation. You do not need to be sloppy drunk on a first date. You want to show that you can control yourself.

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  Have an opinion. If he asks you what movie you want to see, suggest something. Do not just say “any movie is fine”. He may think you are very boring if you just say “yes” all the time.

• FLIRT! Be confident, compliment him, make eye contact and maintain an “open” body position.

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  Avoid self put-downs. You have to like yourself before he can like you.

1. • Begin with self-love. The truth is that you need to love yourself before anyone else can love you. Write out all of the things people love about you, and write down the things that frustrate or annoy those who love you. This helps to bring to light the cold hard facts about what you do that can push love away. Tell yourself every day that you are good at three things. Practice and nurture those things in your personality, and strive to rid yourself of the things in your life that make you unhappy and bring on mood swings.

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     Learn to accept love. Low self esteem will rob you of a feeling of deserving love. If you feel as though you don’t deserve the people in your life, you may be inadvertently pushing them away because of it. Stop pushing people away by looking at them and telling yourself that they are good people and that you deserve to have their love.

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     Take fear out of your life. Instead of waiting for someone to disappoint you, learn how to stop fearing love and a successful relationship with someone. Stop pushing people away out of fear, and you can really be happy in love, work, your social life and at home.

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     Become an attractor. Stop the dialogue in your head about how every man or woman is the same as the last one. These negative feelings and thoughts can lead to self-fulfilling prophesies. If you tell yourself that you will only attract the same types of people who will hurt you, you can easily make it come true. Attract positive people.

Avoid Criticism Whenever Possible

• Frequent criticism and complaints about another person can quickly sour a relationship. You should make every attempt to avoid criticism when possible; however, you can use occasional constructive criticism to help foster change in your relationship when necessary.

Listen to Other’s Opinions

• Listening to another person’s opinion and taking it into consideration is important to keeping a good attitude in a relationship. Relationships should not be solely one-sided, and a one-sided relationship can quickly deteriorate. Check your attitude at the door and be willing to hear what your significant other or friend has to say; this can greatly improve your attitude and interpersonal communication.

Realize (and Admit) When You’re Wrong

• Nothing says “bad attitude” in a relationship like refusing to admit when you are wrong. Everyone occasionally makes a mistake and says the wrong thing, and he or she should be willing to admit when that happens. You should be OK with owning up to your mistakes and taking the necessary steps to fix the problem as a way of improving your attitude and the relationship.

Ask, Don’t Tell

• People appreciate when they are asked rather than told to do or think something. Be sure to watch your tone of voice, body language and words when you are making a request of your significant other or friend. Asking someone to do something, rather than demanding them to do it, will not only increase the likelihood that the event occurs, but will improve your attitude and relationship with the other person.

Learn from Issues and Conflicts

• Every relationship will suffer problems from time to time. Frequent, unresolved conflict can create attitude problems among even the closest of friends and lovers. Use each problem as a way to learn about yourself, your partner or friend and the conflict you are working through. The ability to learn from conflict not only improves relationships and diminishes attitude problems, but will make you a better person as well.

Imagine a Better You

• The quickest and easiest way to change your attitude in a relationship is to picture yourself as a better person or model your behavior after someone you respect. How does this person act? How do you see yourself working with and respecting others? Imagining a better you can help you make it a reality.

1. • Give him his space. Guys want space after a breakup. They want to be free. They want to forget about all the problems they had in the relationship. Give the guy plenty of time to forget about the negative aspects of your relationship.

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     Run into the guy you want back accidentally one day when he least expects it. Do this only after giving him weeks or even months to get over your relationship. If you have waited long enough, he’ll remember only the good times when he sees you.

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     Keep the first accidental meeting short. You want the guy to think that you aren’t thinking about him. Make it appear that it does not matter to you that you just ran into him. Say one or two nice things and let him say something if he wants, then leave.

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     Make an effort to run into him a second time a week or two later. Do this only if he hasn’t called you after the first time you saw him. This second time you run into the guy you want back, strike up a conversation. Keep things very positive and smile a lot.

   • Ask the guy to call you one day. If you put the ball in his court, he can show you that he wants you back.

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     Play hard to get and act disinterested in him if it appears that he’s not falling for you again. Keep doing this until you get him to want you back.

1. • Get to know her as a person and friend. Show interest in learning more about her, and gauge her willingness to open up when determining the direction of your relationship. Your goal is to make her comfortable with you as a friend, with no pressure or insinuation of anything else.

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     Ask questions about things she seems interested in. For a shy person, it is often most easy and comfortable to discuss things they are passionate about.

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     Realize that the woman may feel intimidated by dating. Shyness prohibits being comfortable in certain social situations, and by its nature, dating is a social activity.

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     Be reliable and trustworthy. Important attributes for her to accept you as a friend, these traits are even more important if she is to consider a romantic relationship.

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     Listen well. If you truly hear what she is saying, you will get to know the intracacies of her as a person better.

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     Follow her lead. Note her levels of comfort, and if she begins opening up to you, you are on the right path. Your knowledge of her as a friend will help you to decide when the timing is right for approaching asking her out on a date

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     Ask her to dinner or to another activity where it will be just the two of you, but don’t create pressure by making it formal or referring to it as a date. Simply admit you’d love to spend more time with her and see what happens.

However, fellas, sometimes we need to help our woman get into and even understand sports. Here’s some tips on how to turn sports time into quality time.

1. Choose a spot where your woman will be comfortable. Instead of watching the game in a crowded, loud bar, watch the game at home. Invite a few friends over (not the guys who spill beer all over the carpet) or even just make it the two of you. If it’s the two of you, get creative with romantic gestures such as a kiss every time your team scores. And you’ll always have halftime to get really creative.

2. Help her understand the game. Explain the strategy of the game to her so she understands what’s happening. It’s no fun for her when she doesn’t understand what’s happening. If she asks questions, answer them and don’t get frustrated. She really wants to understand. Be patient.

3. After you watch the game together, try playing together. Go to the backyard and throw the football back and forth. Teach her some of the plays but don’t be really competitive. Make it fun and crack some jokes.

4. Give her some team attire. Buy her flattering attire with your favorite team’s logo and possibly your last name on it. Encourage her to wear what you bought her and shower her with compliments: “My wife looks HOT in green, doesn’t she?” or “You look incredibly attractive in that jersey.”

5. Don’t overdo it. You love sports and are probably excited to share this passion with her, but understand that her level of enthusiasm may never quite match yours. Recognize that her attempt to be interested and watch a game with you doesn’t mean she wants to watch every game in the season. Start slowly. Even though this may be difficult for you, she’ll probably be more willing to watch sports if it isn’t something you try to get her to do every day.

1. • Overcome your shyness. A lot of women miss out on the opportunity to talk to men because they’re too self conscious.

   • Find an excuse to talk to him. If you work together and you’re in the elevator today, talk about a work project or event. If you notice him at a bar, ask him for the time.

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     Approach him in a casual way. This allows you the chance to gauge his personality. Make sure he’s alone then make small talk. Smile at him. Chances are he’ll smile back. Plus, you’ve overcome one hurdle by initiating contact.

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     Build on that initial conversation by talking to him whenever you see him.

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     Talk about a subject that interests the man–himself. He will feel most comfortable talking about his work or hobbies. If he’s interested in you, he’ll ask you questions in return.