Choosing A Life Partner Starts With YOU
First, get clear about who you are and what you want so you can make a partner choice accordingly.
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Who are you? What are you about? What are your values and what makes you ‘tick’?
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What do you want? What are your relationship requirements and needs? What’s the vision for your life?
Second, you have to choose a life partner who fits your vision and is compatible with your specific requirements and needs. You must also learn how to get your requirements and needs met in your relationship. If you fail, you will have only two options: live unhappily ever after, or leave the relationship. Not too tempting!
When choosing a life partner, make sure you are able to resist to the instant gratification impulse (sadly, so much encouraged in today’s culture) to react to the physical fascination natural in the beginning of any relationship.
Becoming involved sexually right away blinds you to the countless things that will eventually determine your relationship failure or survival. Becoming involved sexually too soon usually leaves a trail of wounded hearts.
Yes, sexual chemistry is an essential ingredient in a happy love relationship; but it is far from being enough to sustain a long-term relationship.
Tips For Choosing A Life Partner
Take the time to choose your life partner carefully and well. Make sure:
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You know who you are and what you want in a relationship – your values, life vision and goals, requirements, and needs
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Both of you have emotional intelligence skills and similar levels of commitment to making the relationship work
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You choose someone who deals with people and circumstances in the outside world in a way you respect
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You choose someone compatible with your own way of seeing life (worldly-oriented vs. spiritually-oriented) to avoid feeling isolated and misunderstood
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You keep laughing with and surprising each other to keep the love alive
