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Choose a good time to communicate your needs. At the end of a stressful day at work, during loud moments at home and while cleaning are not appropriate times to communicate. Wait until your partner is relaxed and the surroundings are peaceful. Suggest taking a quiet walk together, or lay with your partner in bed.
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Listen to the needs of your partner. Meeting the needs of your partner will encourage her to listen to your needs. Ask your partner how you can help her become happier, what she needs from the relationship and how you should improve her life. Eagerly express your appreciation for her.
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Show that you are listening and communicating with body language. Maintain eye contact to show your partner that you are open and listening. Rub his arm or hold his hand to create an intimate connection.
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Tell your partner your needs. Remember your partner is not a mind reader, so she will not know what you need in a relationship until you tell her. Be honest about your needs. If you feel unappreciated, suggest more dates and presents. If you feel physically neglected, let your partner know you need more hugs and kisses.
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Avoid conflict by not judging or placing blame. Blaming your partner will make him become defensive and offended. Your partner will believe you are trying to start a fight with him. This is not the proper way to effectively communicate what you need in a relationship. Say “I feel appreciated when you take me out for dinner” instead of “You never take me out to dinner.”
