Getting married is a huge change in itself. It’s a big commitment saying that you want to spend your entire life with this person.Usually the young couple has no clue what that even means. A lifetime is a long, long time to be with anyone.
A successful marriage is hard work. Too many people expect it to be all love and roses. That “honeymoon” period lasts a short time into the marriage. Then the couple relaxes into married love – when the annoying habits that used to be cute start bothering you and you get tired of picking up his dirty socks which used to be a duty of love.
When you get married, you can’t do everything the way you always did. You have to learn to give, take and compromise. Your money isn’t your own to spend as you choose any longer. You find you have to work at keeping things exciting and new. It’s a lot more work taking care of two instead of just one. You want to go to a movie, but he wants to go to a basketball game – with his friends!
When children come along, things change again. It’s amazing how much that tiny little bundle changes your lifestyle. Sleep is at a premium, and tempers get short. Everything you do revolves around your baby. Some husbands get jealous of the time the baby takes their wives, time which they can’t devote to them any longer. Finances may become more difficult. You never know what may happen.
There are years when you actually have to work at doing things together without the kids. It’s necessary to keep the marriage alive, and the marriage, not the children, is the nucleus to a functional family life
